You know those jail shows where the criminal says he’s going to be good, and not go back to jail. Then he goes back to jail for doing something bad. It’s not because he wants to go to jail, but because he has no self control. He finds no joy with being “good”. In a way we are all like the criminal. Now don’t take that too seriously we don’t do bad things but we all have a lack of self control. Let’s say you fail a test because you didn’t study. Your teacher gives you a second chance. You see these kids all the time in class who react saying “yes I’m going to study and get an A, and study hard!” When the night before the test roles around they are so busy playing video games, watching movies, partying, hanging with friends. They open the school book for 10 minutes, and think they will still get an A. The next day they fail the test again. Now think of a opportunity or a failure in your life that you have or had a second chance to get right. Did you follow threw? Or did you blow it off?
Well let me just give some tips to those people who struggle to follow threw when they are given a second chance!
1. Make a commitment
Write down your commitments. Write down what you will do differently going forward. Set it as your lock screen. Create a time limit 6 months or one year. At the end of that time limit you get a reward! A dog, a horse, money. Whatever matters most to you, and get your parents in on it. I am sure they would be more then happy to give you a reward because all they want to do is help!
2. Ask yourself the reason
Why are you making these choices? Are you bored? Is studying boring? Write it down and create a coping skill. What can you do instead of hanging out with the bad friend? How can you make studying fun?
3. Talk to people! This is pretty obvious.
4. Find something else that brings you happiness
Find something that takes over that craving to do whatever it was that made you lose an opportunity. You need to look at the little things in life and say “yes that was enough”
In summary it’s easy to mess up second chances, and if you have one you need to do everything in your power to be the best you possible!! You can make anything fun and cure your boredom just with the power of your mind!